If you read this and think, “He’s writing this about me.”, you’re probably right. But before you feel too special or get your feelings hurt, realize that I’m probably also writing about someone else.
I see a lot of young couples around me struggling with the same things. Who feel like they are beating their heads against a wall while trying to do everything right. Taking care of various responsibilities with their jobs, marriages, homes, and children. It gets overwhelming and because of their frustration and time constraints they withdraw from the church rather that run toward it. They choose a kind of Oprah spirituality rather than the gospel and it leaves them wanting. I see Christians being beat up by the world, tossed around our culture like a ship with no rudder, sail, or anchor. My heart aches for them.
My advice to young and old is simple. Go to church. I don’t mean just show up at a church building. I mean go to the church, the bride of Christ, the community of believers. “And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting on another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching.” -Hebrews 10:24-25
I’d like to challenge you to invest yourself in your local church. Bless others and make yourself available to be blessed by others. Make it a priority.
Jeremiah 29:11 has become one of the most popular “coffee mug” verses in recent years: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.” I’ve seen lots of folks claim this as their favorite verse believing that it means that God plans for everything to eventually be wonderful in their life, that in time He will make them healthy, wealthy, and wise. However, many of you may dismayed to find out that this was not a promise of God to an individual promising a great job, a perfect spouse, and obedient children. Read the whole chapter, or the whole book of Jeremiah if you dare, and you will find that it was a multi-generational promise to a community of exiles. Though exiles in Babylonian captivity, they were told to build houses, plant gardens, marry, raise children, and to seek the Lord while living in community as they awaited delivery from their captivity. They were told to live in peace within the culture, but not to conform to it. As it was for those Jewish exiles, I believe that it is through community and through generations that the Lord will bless us with hope and future.
I’ve seen the benefits of this in my own life. I’m thankful that Leslie and I both had mothers who took us to church whenever the doors were open.
I’m thankful that Frank Daniels continually presented the gospel to me during my teenage years, and that he encouraged me to grow in maturity and leadership.
I’m thankful that James and Cindy Gray were there to model healthy marriage and mentor Leslie and I during our first couple of years together.
I’m thankful that Bill Vaughn held our babies (and hundreds of others) and for all of the meals we got to share with him and Helen.
I’m thankful that Lou Ann helps us teach our girls to be ladies and that Irv teaches me to be patient and gentle with my wife and children.
I wouldn't have the blessings of these relationships without being plugged into the church.
Is your precious baby about to make you pull your hair out? Take him to church and let your blessing be a blessing to someone else. Let someone else hold him for a while. He will be a blessing to them and you will get some relief and perhaps some new perspective.
Has the shine worn off of your young marriage? Are you wondering how to love each other? Scared of adding to the divorce statistics someday? Go to church and let people who have been married for 50 years teach you how it’s done. Find out why that old man still has his arm around his bride who hasn’t been considered “hot” by anyone in 40 years.
Have you complained about worship, a Bible class, the singing, or home groups or the by using phrases like, “I just don’t get anything out of it”, “they just sing old songs”, “they just sing new songs”, “it’s mostly old people”, or “it’s just for young people”? Perhaps you need a change of perspective and should seek first to bless others with your presence and participation rather than going in as just a consumer.
I know that living out this life of community may not be easy or comfortable for a lot of people. Our culture is opposed to it. We are greedy with our time. We are fearful of exposing our imperfections and quick to complain about the imperfections of others. I’ve seen a lot of congregations where generations are just tolerating each other, sharing space but not sharing their lives. If you find yourself in this situation, maybe you should be the one to make the first move. To borrow phrasing from JFK, ask not what your church can do for you, but what you can do for your church. “...for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap...and let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all, especially to those who are of the household of faith.” -Galations 6
May you bless and be a blessing through the church and so much the more as we see the Day approaching.
Prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. Amen
